Ese Walter Opens Up about Losing Her Sex Drive Post-Pregnancy

New mothers are now sharing more and more topics that used to be taboo. Just recently, Tiwa Savage talked about losing her hair after she delivered Jamil.

Ese Walter of Femina Speaks recently went even deeper as she openly narrated how she lost her sex drive after having her baby, to encourage other new mums who may be going through the same thing. Now, one year later, she says all her intimacy worries are gone.

Read her tweets below *descriptions are graphic*

Tonight on #MerDroits60 I will be sharing some sexual experiences I had after baby. #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

The general advice is to wait six weeks after baby before sex. Six weeks crawled by slowly. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I assumed after six weeks,we’d be back to our usual coupling but that wasn’t the case.As a co-sleeping mum…1/2 #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

…baby’s sleep patterns played a big role in when sex happened. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I worried about my changing body. My swollen belly and huge milk-filled breasts didn’t let me enjoy sex. #MerDroits60 #postpsrtumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

As someone who was skinny before baby, it took a while to accept my new https://t.co/LbnoqBBqim happened with the lights off. #MerDroits60

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I birth my son via CS but that didn’t stop me from worrying about the “tightness” of my vagina. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

At my six weeks check up, the doctor “warned” me of the “dangers” of getting pregnant again. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I was told about all these contraceptive methods. Reading about them online scared me out of sex. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I thought if I kept my legs closed, I wouldn’t need any contraception as the “risk” of pregnancy won’t come up. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

Surely this raises questions as to hubby feeling denied sex or left out. I also wondered why men didn’t have contraception. #MerDroits60

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

It was easier to get turned on by support and kinds words than by foreplay or an erect penis. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

My self esteem was plummeting because I needed constant reminder that I was beautiful. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

One time my son woke up in the middle of sex. I immediately lost interest in sex and picked him up. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

It was as I put one breast in his mouth that I realised I had jumped out of sex half way. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I offered an apology to hubby but I was no longer interested in continuing. My heart, soul and mind was on my nursing child. #MerDroits60

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I wondered how I was meant to divide my attention between my infant and my adult hubby. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

The sexless phase happened when I wasn’t getting enough sleep and catering to an infant round the clock. #MerDroits #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I remember one night I got in bed prayed againdt sex. I was mentally tired and didn’t enjoy sex as much. #MerDroits60 #Postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I thought sex would never be the same again. I thought child birth had ruined sex for me. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

I had some regret around having a baby so early in my union. I was ready to accept sex as boring and hard work. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

The beauty about reading from other moms was that I realised I wasn’t alone. I knew it could get better. #MerDroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

One year after baby, I wonder what all of those worries were about. Especially the change in vagina bit. #MerDroits60 #podtpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

Moms who had vaginal birth talk about kegal exercises. I was advised to try it even though I birth via CS because.. 1/2 #MerDroits60

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016

…dilating they say still causes the vagina to expand. #Merdroits60 #postpartumsex

— Ese Walter (@kendrickzma) February 19, 2016